Welcome to Shifting Life! I’m Cheryl Ainsworth, and I’m passionate about family. This blog is all about raising your kids well, living healthily and facing life with passion and energy. I believe in living every day with positivity and excitement, no matter what your circumstances may be.
I’m 37 years old, and a mom of 2 living in Charlotte, North Carolina. My kids are my world. The oldest, Kayla, is a beautiful and talented 11 year old girl. She gets great report cards, plays the violin beautifully and loves her ballet classes and softball team. My youngest, Macy, is an energetic and excitable 7 year old who can never keep still. They are both incredibly sweet, loving and smart little girls and although it’s hard work, raising them is the best job I’ve ever had.
Although my kids take up most of my time and energy, I have other interests and hobbies too. I love to watch movies, go for long walks in nature, practice yoga and play with our 3 cats: Mittens, Snowball and Lucy. I also have a close group of friends here in Charlotte; we like to get together for reading groups, coffee outings and movie nights. They’ve been a real support to me in recent months when things got tough.
My life has changed drastically in the past year. Once happily married, I thought I had it all and was set for life. I won’t go into the gory details, but my marriage ended last year after a long and drawn out separation and then divorce. I don’t believe in slandering people when they’re not present to defend themselves and my husband is still the father of my children, so I won’t attack him on this site, but I will say that it was a very difficult decision for me but one I felt was necessary.
I never thought I’d be divorced or a single mother, but it just goes to show that life doesn’t always turn out as we plan. We may see ourselves in a fairy tale family situation that lasts until death do us part, but in reality, things do sometimes go wrong. We can only pick ourselves up, brush off and move forward with a smile.
So that was my big shift, and it was a rude awakening. I had to learn to take care of myself for the first time in years and not rely on anyone else. I had to figure out how to care for and discipline two children without the help of a male figure in the household. I had to reassess my financial situation and learn to live on a tighter budget.
All of these things may have been tough, but I also got a chance for a fresh start. I began to look at myself as a stronger, more independent woman; one who was truly capable of taking life on without a man by her side.
As part of my new beginning, I started a new health and fitness regime, and began trying to take better care of myself. While I was married I became very blasé about my health. I drank a few glasses of wine every evening, probably as a reaction to the stress of being in an unhappy marriage, and comfort ate instead of eating mindfully. Now I’ve begun to put the focus on myself instead of my husband, and as a result am healthier and more alive than ever before.
The aim of this blog is to share everything I’ve learned on this road of single motherhood with others. It is incredibly hard to go from being one half of a couple with shared responsibilities to being alone in your home. However, I hope I can show through this blog that it doesn’t have to be a miserable experience.
Whether it’s health tips, household management, or general lifestyle advice, you’ll find it here on Shifting Life. I hope that just a few of the things I’ve learned can help other families, and make their lives a little easier.
If there’s anything you’d like to ask about, or any comments you’d like to share with me, please feel free to shoot a message my way.